I call this time of year “Boundary Setting Season.” There are so many responsibilities, commitments, and people pulling our attention. I used to have a very hard time saying no. I would say yes when I really meant no, then complain about it and find a way to get out of whatever I committed to. Sometimes it was because I was stretching myself too thin. Sometimes it was because I just needed to recharge. I did it because never wanted to let anyone down, but in the end I was really only hurting myself.
Setting boundaries is hard to do. I’m certainly not great at it yet, but I am getting better. I have been practicing saying no, and I have to admit… I get a high from doing it now. It has become very empowering for me to take more control. If only I knew that saying ‘no thank you’ would have this impact I would have been doing it a lot sooner.
Make More Space for Yes
When you say no, it allows you to say yes to more things in your life that you want to do. It’s important to keep your time precious and unplug when you need it. Unplugging could mean leaving your phone at home to run an errand, or not going to that party when you don’t want to. You don’t always need to be available all the time, especially if that adds stress to your life.
Hear more about saying no and the other ways I am setting boundaries during the holiday season on this week’s podcast. We’d love to hear how you set boundaries or if you have a different approach to the subject. Join our Facebook Group and be apart of the discussion.
