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The World Wasn’t Built for ADHD

I had always been that kid. Adults referred to me as “a handful” and “a spirited child” or “a space cadet.” I left my clothes on the stairs, missed the bus for school, and forgot to turn in my homework…

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How To Stop Overworking

I wrote back in January about how I am trying to worry less in 2024. My solution to worrying less was adding more. More learning, more fun, more spontaneity. Adding more doesn’t necessarily mean being busier. In fact, part of…

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Is It Too Late To Change My Parenting?

I am pretty sure I didn’t do “gentle parenting” with my kids.  To be clear, Penn and I don’t really have to discipline our children. They are wonderful kids and on their way to be amazing adults. But when they…

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We’re Doing Boundaries Wrong

Over the past couple years, the phrase “setting boundaries” has been extremely popular. To me, it always felt like a list of absolutes. Walls you put up to protect yourself and supposedly, lead to a happier life. But to be…

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This Is Better Than My Vision Board 

This post goes out to all the people who had a dream that didn’t come true… But something far better happened instead.  Vulnerable moment here: I’ve always been obsessed with game shows. My weird, wild dream was to be part…

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Lessons From The Last 10 Years

I don’t buy lottery tickets. Not because I have moral opposition, but because I know I’ll never get this lucky ever again. Ten years ago, we won the internet lottery. We posted a video we titled, “XMAS JAMMIES” and it…

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What Are You Afraid Of?

Kim and I have a phrase that we talk about in our marriage book: Name it to tame it. It’s the idea that when you say your fears out loud you take away some of its power over you. And…

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