The New Year makes me dream. I pull out my vision board, my calendar, my journals and I imagine the whole world of possibilities for the year ahead. I think about where we might travel, new goals for our business, and how I want to always be working towards getting stronger physically. And, here’s the thing, I don’t keep any of this to myself. I talk about it, write about it, and go around chugging my giant bottle of water everyday.
Penn, on the other hand, says very little. Does he have new ideas, goals, and dreams? Of course he does, but he just doesn’t share them the same way I do.
Maybe it’s not true for your relationship, but I don’t think we are alone in the fact that we just don’t share our emotions and thoughts equally with each other. If you do, that’s awesome, but we have a deficit when it comes to that.
Learning How To Share
Our sharing difference is especially apparent this time of year when everyone is talking about resolutions and goals. We even made a video sketch of this sharing difference that we have, and if you watch, you’ll see I was laughing the whole way through. Even though I wrote it, Penn did a lot of ad libbing. Penn definitely listens to me, because he knew exactly what I say.
On our podcast this week, we were discussing the video and suddenly we found ourselves in the middle of a personal therapy session with each other. (Funny how that happens when you take intentional time to sit and have a conversation with your partner.)
I really like to have things planned out ahead of time and to know what’s in the future. Knowing that helps me to be able to enjoy the current moment more. Penn, however, likes to stop and smell the roses and just enjoy the current moment for what it is. He doesn’t like saying his goals out loud because he doesn’t want to let people down if they don’t work out.
I’m sure we won’t get this perfect for a while – maybe not ever – but, for now, we left the conversation with a deeper and more appreciative understanding of each other.
Our new goal for the year? Learning how to share better with each other. What’s your goal for the year? Tell me in the comments and take a listen to the show below.
